status quo

Im finding that everything is life is based on a status quo, although many times people try and break out of those, they are still ever present. Yesterday I was discussing with someone how she feels that if you break up with someone and they said they still want to be friends and you both want that you should still be able to, but this status quo called life doesn't allow that. She doesn't feel like all that awkwardness needs to be there,as she put it "i saw him naked, its not like he doesn't know me now." But thats the whole thing in order to mask whatever it is that happened one has must fake this whole front titled "Since you know everything about me, and know how to hurt me, I'm never going to even pretend to let you close to me" it happens all the time, like people saying something is worse than it actually is after the fact. They feel the need to bring up every bad situation and issue of an event in order to keep them from it.

Are you a player or do you get played? This is one of the big things when dealing with a relationship, even friendships. Player's keep their options open and are not quick to settle things into stone, while The Played take and settle and make something real while it was never meant to be that. The Played often read to far into things. As being someone who has been on both sides of the spectrum neither is accurate. The player doesnt see others as actual breathing feeling people, often times this is stunted by being played themselves. The played view others as being on a pedestal and put what they want before themselves. Both are twisted and severely insecure.